Attractions are nothing bad, they are great emotions. But if by exception there is an action attached to it.
Being attracted to someone could be from diverse directions, sexual attraction, intellectual attraction, physical attraction and emotional attraction.
In all these attractions, if the result yields great harvest, there should be no issues. After all, having a partner doesn't mean your attraction needs to die.
On a more serious note, just 2 months ago, a client visited my inbox with a serious issue, here's our conversation:
Client: Dr. I have a very serious issue with my relationship!
Me: let me know what the issue is!
Client: I am married for 4 years now, but I'm still in love with my ex.
Me: Ok
Client: While in bed with my husband, if I must get to the moment, I need to think and see my ex before I can enjoy sex.
Me: It is not a dead situation yet. By the way do you still see your ex and is your ex married?
Client: I still see him when I'm hurt by my husband, as my husband always physically violates me. So I may call him and we will talk for hours. Yes, he is married and will not leave his wife for me but he loves me too
Me: You need emotional therapy...!
With a client like this, she had six-month emotional therapy to help her find herself - to trust and understand her strength and weaknesses also get control over her body.
Most cases of inconsistencies in emotional flow is due to an identity problem. When one needs another to complement them before they can understand how relevant they are.
Sum total, if you are with someone, while still looking for something special or still finding something special from another person outside what you have, it means you are the one with the problem not your partner.
Try finding yourself, take a break from your external emotions, strengthen your relationship with yourself, come to the place where you know a partner is only there to complement you not to make you full or better.
Convince yourself to be perfect the way you are. And anyone coming should be grateful to have you
This has worked for many even me!
Grow your self esteem! Dress to please you, keep company with those who will add meaning and value to you, read books that help you see you better and make you smile often. Free yourself from any bondage.
These points amongst others will help you be attracted to yourself first and any other person will be secondary. You will also serve love genuinely
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