TwoCents | THE EVANGELISM OF SELF LOVE

So let's talk about the very thing that drives our society Yeah, it has basically become an evangelism topic; "love yourself", "nobody matters except you", "you are the prize" and all the bla bla bla. It has seemingly become comical at this point, because we seem to have conflated its meaning and produced a bunch of egocentric, reprehensible and emotionally unavailable disciples to the cause. Is loving yourself really about the good or the hurt? Of anything, I think this advice stems from a lot of hurt people. Humans are social beings and whether we accept it or not, we were made to be dependent on each other. We work better in droves than alone. You probably have heard the saying, "if you want to go fast, go alone, but if you want to go far, go together". It reiterates that more can be achieved when people work together, instead of against each other. How then do you combine your self love with working together? At least this version being pushed,because if you think about it, this version is more about "self", "you", and if you do not gain from being involved in any process, you don't give your all. Now, that may not be all bad, but imagine a billion people doing the same thing. I might be going too far, imagine out of 10 people, 9 are using this version, how does that pan out? Do you really think the world would be much better that way? Someone that would have said something favourable about you to get that job, decides not to, because it doesn't benefit him. Yeah, someone who loses nothing when you decide to give them a break because that person doesn't want to change for the better. Yes, we get it, people are like leeches and tend to use you till their heart's content, but would that continually define you? Dedicate yourself to someone who would appreciate it and pour into you as you would them. Or let us even talk about a certain community that tends to use this as a bullying tactic. No, I am not insulting the trans community but I really want to understand why you would think loving yourself means spending money to transform what you were beautifully and wonderfully made with? I'm sure some makeup apathists would come here to muzz me but those two don't relate, as makeup improves what already exists, while the other process's shatters the very core of who you are. And if we want to bring makeup, we can bring other things like brushing your teeth, bathing, workouts and so much more. I'm sure you can understand where I am coming from You may be wondering what self love means to me. Well, it is good health, upskilling, helping others, belief in God and a purpose, not allowing negativity seep in, integrity, gratitude, friendship, good thoughts, great life. Basically, as Freddie Mercury's papa used to say "good thoughts, good words, good deeds".Oh, by the way, "self" and "love" do not mix.Just be selfish and own it, cus that's what it entails What is your definition of self-love?

Other insights from Queensley Okon