TwoCents | BUON VENERDI - by Queensley Okon

Or whatever you say for Friday 🌝🌝🌝 I have been learning a lot of Italian so bear with me😎😎 How is everyone doing? Honestly, I wish I could say I was fine but I am not Why am I not fine? I think we have become too perverted as a society. I'm sorry but it had to be said🌚🌚 I can't talk about something simply without it being transformed into an innuendo. Heck, sometimes I am guilty of the same thing!! Why am I suddenly focused on this particular issue you may ask? Because you made it so!!! I mean, not you but some perverted individuals that don't respect normal human interaction and have decided to infiltrate it with their sick thoughts. What do I mean? The saga of Anthony Mackie and Sebastian Stan also known to you as Falcon and The Winter Soldier. For Marvel-tastic viewers, you probably have enjoyed the on-screen and off-screen relationship between these two characters and friends. Their banter is hilarious and often springs contagious laughter and fun. I really truly love their friendship and chemistry, two men who truly care about each other and allow themselves be vulnerable with each other. It's something lacking in today's society hence the greater need to appreciate it. But some perverted minds decided this cannot just be what it is: a great friendship between two guys but are hoping the show producers exploit it to be a relationship of a sexual nature. Now I get it, you cannot just watch a movie (you in this context refers to the perverts) without it having a sexual undertone but movies are not made to cater to your every sexual desire, you have porn for that. Movies are for a general audience and people do ot want to watch superhero movies for sexual content, we actually want to see them being heroes; at least that is what I think the original idea was. Another thing is, can we just stop sexualizing everything. I get it, most of us are carrying trauma around but your experience is not everyone's. Some people just like things the way they should be. And what is this obsession with killing the idea of vulnerable males? Why can't men just be friends and really close without someone imagining they were clapping cheeks? Why must we push this bigoted idea of men being some rabid characters who project an animalistic aura? Why can't men just be the normal human beings they actually are? Imagine wanting to cancel Anthony because he doesn't support the idea of these characters being exploited? How sick do you have to be to want to get someone off the screen because he says that exploiting something as "precious as being gay" is a no no and he prefers the characters just being who they are: two grown men who are vulnerable with each other and comfortable enough to express it. Imagine how sad you have to be. Can we also as a society stop projecting silly notions that a man being close with another suddenly has a sexual interest in that man? Some men actually have good friendships and are comfortable with each other that way. They are each other's safe spaces and certainly do not want to be seen in a perverted way. Can we actually just allow men to be men? I saw a TikTok where a man was just dancing on his page and having fun and another man reacted to it saying that if it was in the ancient days, that man would be a "gladiator" and not dancing on TikTok. Why did he say this? Because the man was well built and muscular and seeing him dance and just chill was a problem to him. Just imagine that. And a woman actually reshared it and reacted the same way and when I asked why we can't just let men be chill and have fun, she said, men can but he was using the video to lure women. I actually had to laugh out loud because I went to the original video and checked the caption and there was nothing sexual about it. I checked more of his videos and there was nothing sexual in them. I think their crime was him being too cute and they felt lured or whatever because that was just unnecessary. I am a woman and all I saw was a guy dancing but maybe that's just me. My point is we need to start having these conversations around men and actually stopping these silly stereotypes that are pervading us. We need to start from the family unit because that's the defining foundation for all that enters what we spout as "society". Allow your male children to cry, express themselves, to be vulnerable, to not always be strong, to be sad, to get hurt and also heal. Stop moulding war machines and robocops in the name of men and pushing them on us. We want men not robots. Give us back the vulnerability in men!!!! Thank you and God bless from this side What are your thoughts??

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